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Your Children Are Not A Possession

Kahlil Gibran teaches us very wisely that children are life’s longing for itself. They are not a possession to be held but rather a blessing to be learnt from.

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Watching their personalities develop from the earliest moments of their life, and laying onto them guidance and loving concern from the youngest of experiences, it is very easy to forget that we are interacting with an individual soul rather than an extension of ourselves.

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What our children ‘do’ in life is not their journey. The things they ‘do’ are the canada goose outlet black friday toolbox of experience that they will draw upon for the now and the future.

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We don’t know what they can become any more than we know who we will be at the end of life. Glory in their growth without being the one who prunes their branches.

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I hope I am wise enough to remember my own wisdom. Is it realistic? How possible is it that parents accept they do not always know what is best for their children? When they are young and even when they have their own families. Parents always have the benefit of experience but things change. Children grow up in amuck different world than the parents did. The wisdom is great but I can not say i have seen it happening anywhere around me

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What we often see around us is a lot of dysfunction. Parents who can’t (or won’t?) let go of their kids and extended families that meddle in each other’s individual lives as if it was their right. Oh canada goose outlet online it has the potential to be a mine field. however, there are families who get on great and support each other as the children grow into adult hood and a new generation is added. What seems to work is when healthy boundaries are in place and parents are able to step back into a role of support and acceptance rather than directing and guiding (without being asked). Many of my articles have the element of “in an ideal world” and yet if awareness is not raised to the possibilities then there will never be positive change.

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AJ I’m sure you know it all already without coming back to canada goose jacket outlet read my article. These things are merely a reminder! I don’t know if this truly applies to children the age ours are at. I was more thinking of children who are getting older and actively making important decisions in life that potentially influence their course through life in serious ways. Of course it’s nice to let younger children have a taste of self. and that’s a different thing again, or is it?

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